Three month EC pep talk.

The following is a letter I am writing to myself just as much as everyone else who is on the elimination communication train. Even though my second is now 7 months of age already. I wrote this and it was lost in my drafts. So I’m posting it now just in case I need to reference it if we truely decide to rock this parenting thing for a third child. I must remind myself it does take time, patience and love.

Dear ECer, 

  
    Don’t stop now!! You are doing a great job! Remember why you started this practice in the first place.

 You are communicating.

Three months isn’t a very long time to get to know your little completely. It takes time. She/he is developing new thoughts, motions and sometimes all of those things take a front seat to listening to cues all the time. 

Relax. 

You are communicating the best you can for now. Be an open arm for potty-tun-i ties. and be okay with stepping back when it is too much for either of you. 

It will get better. 

Even though it feels like miss after miss, at the end of a learning streak of other things, children who have regular EC communication typically come back even more aware than before the new development that has taken place. 

Your cleaning less poo diapers at this point most likely. If that isn’t something worth a high five or victory dance then I don’t know what is.   

You are building yet another means to communicate and let your child be heard thru their own needs. 

You have got this. Keep going. You will be glad to have had the time with your little.

Bookmark this page and read it as many times as you need during those bad days you may stumble upon. 

Know someone else is feeling the same way you are right now. You are not alone!
~Lightgreenmom

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Jagger Hazel’s Birth Story.

Nothing could prepare me for the emotions that would fill my head and heart during my second birth experience.  Not one word of advice, homebirth video or birth story would have explained the intensity, healing and pure bliss I would journey.

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EC 2 years later.

EC 2 years later.

I realize it has been a very long time since I have posted about our EC journey. We have been full time EC’ers since little h. was 2 days old. (If you don’t know what EC is read more about it here) Here we are 2 years later! I wanted to share an update for those of you curious as to where we are now and I also wanted to share some honesty about our journey with elimination communication.

So, I am happy to say that at 2 years old we are consistently going on the little potty or “big girl” potty 100% of the time. My 2 year old is in normal toddler underwear day and night and has been for a little over 6 months. We haven’t had a number 2 miss since she was a little under a year (even those were few and far between) We did have our minor setbacks of pee misses between one and two (you can read about that here) I don’t want to jump the guns and say graduated though. My definition of “graduated” seems to be a little different than the average ECer or even potty trainer of a toddler though I do believe. Let me explain;

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If only there were more girl superheroes.

 


It’s no secret to those who know me that I love a good documentary. I had a moment to finally finish one that has been on my watch list for a long while now.
Missrepresentation is all about a girls role in society. It discusses how media and advertising plays an integral role in encouraging our sons and their fathers to feed into its over sexualized content.
For me, the opening scene was myself. A mom who now has a daughter and wants her to be everything she dreams of. To be content with herself and love who she is becoming.
In real life, I’m terrified for her to become older.
Seriously terrified.
I really feel that I had a great childhood and growing up. But it was the 1980’s and 90’s. Diets were everywhere from Richard Simmons to Suzanne Sommers, I even had my grandma tape Mouser-size (we didn’t have cable where I lived at the time) so I could “work out” as a kid. Yes I said tape it.
Growing up my mom, one of the best mothers was always hard on herself for her self image and remains to this very day. Then I started my career in a large spa, and around me, plastic surgery in fellow co workers and magical meal replacements. It’s funny how all these things play on your conscience as you are growing into adulthood and here I am, still remembering them now.
I guess what I am trying to say is even a self proclaimed geeky art girl started to worry about how she was seen in the world.
All of us at one time or another have questioned our own image. Unfortunately, it’s everything in print ads, on the Internet, and television and movies, most of the time it’s what sells it.
Even our daughters “role models” are these perfect impossible princess characters. Ones with tiny waists and big eyes waiting for someone to come save them from their life.
Seriously?
We are so hard on each other. Especially women.
Looking at politics for example, women are so very outnumbered. What is sad is no matter what the woman’s political standpoint, automatically most men and women are more likely to vote for the male counterpart. Why? Because women are the hardest on each other. Hillary Clinton was noted to be “the bitch” during her campaigning. It’s Sad, the way we automatically in our heads jump to conclusions about one another.

What If more superheroes were girls?

I don’t mean leather skin tight suits with mass cleavage either. But REAL badass heroines that you remember because of their wit and character and superpowers? What if we started to tell bedtime stories about Super-heroines? What if girls were given capes and boots with that crown and pink glitter boa?
What If we begin to accept ourselves as we are more often than not, and celebrate what we are instead. Give our children the superpower of self love and acceptance right from the start?
As a mom I can say its hard to be in love with my lack of makeup and hairstyle most days. But my daughter has also taught me that there are way more important things to be concerned with than vanity and appearances at this moment. Like dancing to the “Kites are fun” song as soon as we roll out of bed, or that early morning tea party. She doesn’t care that my high lights have 4 inches of regrowth, or that I failed to remember mascara to the grocery. She reminds me life can really be more simple. I just have to go with it. Why waste time thinking about what everyone else thinks.
Stand for something YOU are passionate about.

I want my daughter to grow up strong, smart and confident. I want her to be empowered in making her own dreams come true and inspired to love every bit of her being.

It is my superpower to make this happen.

I’m a mom.

How about you? What superpower are you working on?

P.S. The amazing picture at the top of this post was done by an amazing artist of my daughter and french bulldog. How cute is that?

You can find more of her work or contact her directly here.

~lightgreenmom

The no-cry nap solution book review

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I was lucky enough to be asked to review Elizabeth Pantley’s book “The No Cry Nap Solution”. Yes you have totally heard of her, she is the Author of another well known book ” The No Cry Sleep Solution”. I recall in desperation asking a mother in my local group to borrow it not too long ago (in little h’s earlier days). My daughter was never a fan of the act of falling to sleep. At nearly one and a half she still isn’t in love with the idea.
We do finally feel pretty successful with night time sleeping (unless teeth are working her nerves or we had an off kilter day), but what about naps? Around the time she started settling into a night time sleeping pattern she cut off her two naps a day and went to one, sometimes she wouldn’t nap AT ALL.

Oh god, how do I make it thru the day with this crazy tired bounce off the wall child? Anyone who stays at home full time can tell you it is imperative at this stage to get at least one nap in a day for your own sanity as well as your child’s.

Sometimes it’s hard to get in a book when your child loves to play and doesn’t nap. But I am here to tell you it’s worth trying and sacrificing your quiet time if you have a nap time disaster on your hands.

This book is great because you can read it in bits and take the information you need right now and find it easily in its contents page if you prefer.
Honestly, it had me at “making short naps longer”.
What makes this book so wonderful is its down to earth, reasonable solutions you can choose to use to greater communicate nap time with your child. Which as most of us know isn’t always the easiest task.
In a nutshell, It teaches you about the stages of sleep and how your child needs them to nap efficiently. If you are a list or plan maker, there are also logs to help you track your nap plan. By far the best part of this book are the solutions to many of our all too well known nap time problems.
One of my favorite suggestions was setting the scene for a nap. This is something that until just recently I didn’t realize made such a difference. Making sure your nap space is inviting, sleep friendly and familiar. Now at 17 months, my daughter will often independently walk right into the calm, dark bedroom and plop onto the mattress after waving for me to come along when she is getting tired. I know by her actions that she is ready to try and nap now. She still doesn’t enjoy settling to nap or sleeping by herself, but who really does like to sleep alone?

This book has so many great solutions to nap issues that can be used through your children’s life stages. You can easily refer back to it. I have more than a few topics bookmarked for future reference and reminder.

The only thing missing for me was the ability to wear your child to nap. Baby wearing was one of the only ways we had naps for awhile in our own home. It was a magic solution at many times. It gave me the opportunity to get odds and ends done while keeping my daughter asleep and comforted.

So if you are living with a lack of nap time bliss or would like some of your nap questions answered, this one is for you. I don’t want to give away all of the juicy nap topics covered. You will want to read this.
You can find more information or purchase your own copy on her web page HERE.

Have you read this book? I would love to hear your thoughts too.  What works for you at nap time?

One is so fun.

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My daughter is very quickly approaching 17 months and every day it’s something new (its most likely a week in real life time, but in mom time it really flies by so fast). In the first few months of being one so very much changed.

Sometimes it’s the funny things.
We live on he same street as the local fire department so we hear more than our share of sirens. Little h. is very aware of them now and after looking and looking she starts whoooooo-ing back at it.
Or when she hears music and immediately starts dancing and moving to the beat like its the only thing in the world at that moment that matters (Seriously the cutest thing ever).

Sometimes it’s the not so funny.

EC has really been an amazing way to communicate. I can spot teething or sleepiness very easily by her patterns. However, I was not ready for the “hand dunking phase”. Kids really get a kick out of water in the commode. Seriously, I wasn’t ready to combat this yet. Welcome to EC toddler mode. Or when your wearing your babe at the local market and because your reusable bag is stuffed to the brim with fresh goodies you stuff the extra $5 in your bra for safe keeping only to realize your daughter nabbed it while in a front wrap cross carry and threw it on the ground on your way back to the car (yes, that happened).

Then there is the ugly.
Molars. Not just one molar but multiples at a time. Someone should really prepare you for your child on molars. No amount of teething tablets or amber necklaces are going to stop the attitude you were hoping to not see until your child is a teenager. Apparently molars are sort of the same. Serious mood swings from insanely happy to throw yourself on the floor pain tantrums. There will be mothers who claim to have magical babies who are not phased by teething and I say good for you, now please shut up about it while I pull all the tricks out of my bag to soothe my sweet little girl turned teething maniac.

Finally what makes it all worth it.
The feeling of being needed.
The full body hug when you pick them up.
The giggles and snorts.
The big wet sometimes misplaced on your nose or forehead wet kiss.
The sweet look on their face when sleeping.
When they try to brush your hair.
When they grab your old childhood stuffed animal and hug it like its the best thing ever.
Big sweet eyes when they see something new and exciting.
The first time your kid says mom.

Seeing that face and knowing you created that.

Pure magic.

Being a mother is the hardest thing I have ever done, and the best infinitely. It continues to help me find myself in this life journey. I will embrace the many more amazing (in more than one way) moments in one year old adventures to come.

~lightgreenmom

DIY No Sew Cloth Baby Wipes.

At last! I am finishing my DIY series on homemade cloth baby wipes. Today I will share with you the super easy no sew way to make your own simple cloth baby wipes. Seriously, this is so easy! I started making these after researching what was in my daughters conventional disposable wipes. You can read more about that here. You can make these for next to nothing. I used old receiving blankets we were no longer using and also a few I found while thrifting (old ones are expecially good because they are super soft).

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Full Time EC. A year later.

It’s been a moment since I have shared our journey with elimination communication. If you have no idea what I am talking about or want to read more about EC, check out my post on it HERE.
Here is a refresher on our journey.

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Baby Long Distance Car Travel Survival.

Baby Long Distance Travel Survival.  ~lightgreenmothering.comHere we are. It’s been well over a week (okay it’s been WAY more than a week) since we made it back from our travels in Tennessee. We survived our first official road travel with little h. 10+ hours each way in the car in what was the most rainy trip we have ever been on. Traveling is certainly different than it was when it was just the two of us. We learned so much from this trip. I have decided to make this post about what worked for us: Continue reading

Back seat baby travel bag.

Backseat Baby Bag ~ lightgreenmothering.comWe recently returned from our first long car trip with our daughter. I found having a bag just for her prepared in the backseat was a lifesaver. Here is a little list of what worked for our trip. This list was planned with weather in mind for our adventures to Tennessee from Florida and back in the summer. Continue reading

Babywearing Wednesday and Boba 3G Review

Kicking off my very first babywearing wednesday is one of my first pictures of me wearing Little h. at 2 days old in our Boba 3G in Dusk. You gotta start somewhere, I began my babywearing journey in this Soft Structured carrier and a few days later started wrapping my baby.

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Rockin Green Laundry Detergent Review

lightgreenmothering.comWhen we first settled in with little h. I purchased a bag of Rockin Green laundry soap from a local shop. I must say that one single bag lasted 10 whole months!! I can, in part thank EC for this as well as our hand washing efforts. But what I must say more than that Continue reading

Tennessee, Our First Family Vacation.

Hiking and Babywearing ~lightgreenmothering.comI know I have been absent lately, but I promise I have been working on some great posts in my mind. Little h. is very on the go and needless to say I don’t get alot of time to just sit at my computer and blog. As you may have read in my blog about our family and technology, my home computer is virtually the only means I use to blog. Crazy I know.

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Family time. The Beach. And Babywearing.

Time is flying by so fast I can’t believe it has been over a month since we did this shoot. Harlow is 10 1/2 months old now and even though she has only been earthside with us less than a year, I honestly can’t imagine life without her now.  During this shoot, she was cutting two teeth and  I must also note that we woke her for a just after sunrise shoot as well to beat the heat. She did quite wonderful considering the circumstances.

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Adorable Baby Sunscreen Review

We live in Florida.  They don’t call it the sunshine state for nothing. So one of my biggest concerns outdoors with my 10 month old daughter is protection from the rays of the sun. This is something we will be dealing with quite a bit since we take daily walks with the bulldog and love to go to the ocean, I wanted to make sure I found something that worked very well. After starting my research on your average sunblocks and sunscreens, I was a little shocked by the list of poor ingredients in these bottles and sprays.

I did find one that I am beyond happy with and would love to share it with my fellow light green mothers and parents.

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Our Safe Sunscreen Search

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Since having my first child, my views on many of the products I was buying for myself and my husband have changed. So this year when we went to purchase sunscreen for our family I did what any informed mother would do. I researched the ingredients on the bottle I had emptied at home. No harm right? I was shocked at some of the ingredients I had been slathering on my skin over the last year. So on my search went for a natural, healthy alternative for our family.   Continue reading

EC Potty Pause Time.

Yes folks, We have a potty pause on our hands.  I suppose depending on how one defines it.  Around here, we consider anything out of the ordinary to our usual lines of communication a potty pause or rather break. To most EC’ers, it would mean a total refusal to go on the potty for a stretch of time wether it be a day, week, or even months as I have heard from other moms.  At our house it comes more in clusters of EC misses. Our Elimination Communication is changing.

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DIY All Natural Baby Wipe Solution

As I shared in my post “What is in your baby wipes?” many of the baby wipes on the market are filled with unnecessary ingredients  I would rather not expose my child to if at all possible. Even if ingredients don’t make you want to choose an alternative, the waste you are creating from them or even the cost may make you think twice. So I would love to share with you a very cost effective natural solution that has worked well for our little family. **This is the recipe for solution only. I typically use flannel homemade wipes that I can easily wash with cloth diapers. I will share a super easy DIY with you for that very soon!

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All Natural Cloth Wipe Solution

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What is in your Baby Wipes?

We started out just like most parents do purchasing what seemed like a never ending amount of disposable cloth wipes at the store.  Even choosing to use “natural or unscented real cloth” wipes. Then after reading the ingredients realized they weren’t so natural or real afterall. Just like many of other moms my love for Target is unmatched by any other “big box” store. I’ll be honest here, it is the one guilty consumer driven places you can typically catch me in on occasion. When I wrote this, I just happened to have this kind in my posession. I can vouch that there are many more brands out there with the same story. So, before you get that GIANT box of a million up and up cloth wipes or any other disposable wipes wherever you may go please read this:

Cloth Wipe Truth

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Stuff We Love. Product Review, Simplistic Stitches.

Simplistic Stitches Review ~ lightgreenmom.com

I am a lover of one of a kind items. I am also a lover of homemade. Today I want to share with you Simplistic Stitches. I have to say this monkey she sent for little h. is absolutely adorable!   Continue reading